My third trimester was quite a busy and exciting time for me but it took forever to get through. I think it’s because I was in a hurry to meet my baby girl. We all were. But, I do remember how swollen my feet were, how tired I was and how heavy my body felt and it was all starting to be too much for me. She had to come already!
The biggest body change in pregnancy happens in the last month, so people, please be kind to pregnant ladies in their final trimester. If it’s not necessary to say, it’s better to keep it in than blurt it out. Besides feeling like an offshore whale, the best part of my third trimester was of course my surprise baby shower. I honestly couldn’t believe my family actually managed to surprise me… at my OWN damn house. My mom and sisters went far and beyond for me and it was such a lovely day.
I do though, wish they steered away from the embarrassing baby shower games. Eating baby food with Tobasco? Really guys? But all in all, this was a beautiful experience. I remember all the great advice that was passed on to me and I appreciate all the beautiful gifts we received. From all those beautiful outfits, I was sure my girl was a going to be a fashionista, but instead she’s now a crazy toddler who’s in love with superman and anything halloween.
Looking back at that special day has inspired me to put together a Pinterest board with great ideas for a baby shower. You can find it here. I’m Pinterest crazy and I am always on the look out for new ideas, so keep a link to this and take a look if you are planning a shower for a loved one or you, as the pregnant lady, would like to drop some not-so-subtle hints to family members and friends. I highly encourage expecting moms to drop massive hints on what kind of shower you would like for your special day.
After the excitement of the baby shower and finally getting the house ready, the real waiting began. It felt like an eternity. It got so bad that I was ready to perform my own c-section in the kitchen! I started my maternity leave about a week before giving birth and I moved back home so that my mom could help me transition into motherhood. A week later, to my surprise, we welcomed her to the world.
My whole birthing experience was such a weird and strange feeling for me because I never knew I was in labour for most of it. The night before my daughter was born, I thought I was having stomach cramps the entire time. It never registered to me that it was time for birthing and the next morning when I went to see the doctor for what I had thought to be a stomach bug, it turned out I was well into labour. But to my defence, my water didn’t break and I was just edging on my 37th week, so how was a girl supposed to know. I didn’t even bring my hospital bag or anything and the entire day was such a rush. This was obviously my first time at the rodeo.
After an epidural and 14 hours of labour, she was born at 9:15pm at a whopping weight 3.5kg. She’s a big babe. However, to be honest, the first time I saw her, I never experienced that overwhelming feeling of joy and love that other mothers told me about. I was relieved she was healthy and I thought she was quite hairy but that’s about it. I had just met her, I didn’t know how to love her. She was a stranger to me even though we had been together for 8-9 months. Could it have been postpartum depression? I am not sure but I knew it would take some time to actually love her like I would with any other human. Over the hospital stay, I still didn’t have that overwhelming bond with my baby. I was fascinated by her but I wouldn’t describe it as love. Even breastfeeding felt weird, we were closer than close but still she was a little stranger. But, eventually over time, I got to know her and, a genuine bond and love grew between us. I never got to have that instinctive love (love at first sight experience) but I eventually grew into a love like no other and it was the best feeling ever.
I wonder if all mothers had that love-at-first-sight moment when meeting your baby for the first time? Is it really true? Please share your first meeting with your baby in the comments, I’d love to know if it’s just me or this can actually happen.
There is so much I can say about this phase of my pregnancy experience and I’d love to pass as some helpful tips for other mothers. So, I decided to do a 4-part series of the third trimester phase where I will write 4 different posts and release during the month of love February. This series will comprise:
- Baby Shower gift guide for guests and expecting moms
- Packing that essential Hospital Bag
- Preparing for baby
- Bringing the bambino home
And also, writing my story literally reminded me of all the good memories and great times I had with my daughter that I’d like to do my first Giveaway for mommy and baby. For more information on the giveaway, please head over to Facebook and like my Facebook page. Details will be released on 2 February 2019!
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